Archive for July 14th, 2010
Easy? No thanks I opt for difficult!
How does the word easy rest with you? It’s a strange word with so many connotations, many of which aren’t always positive!
Easy lover … be warned Phil Collins would tell us and don’t fall for an easy lover who will steal your heart and you won’t even feel it. That’s really not a positive outlook is it?
Easy rider … didn’t quite end in the easy flamboyant lifestyle the road tripping guys intended
We are so often ingrained that anything that’s easy is bad for us. We must work hard, play hard and love hard. We need to suffer to succeed.
Is that necessarily true? It’s not the working long hours or putting in effort which is the issue, it’s the word hard!! Is your effort making your life easy … if not, for what reason are you doing it? Are you even enjoying it any more? Sometimes we feel we are suffering and yet given the options we would rather choose the life we have than make changes to live it differently – in those cases, stop moaning and recognise your choice.
On Twitter this morning, Davina McKail (@dreamwhisperer) suggests that to give in is to give inwards to yourself. And yesterday she noted that to give up on what isn’t working for you – is not failure, we’re surrendering and handing over to our higher power.
There’s been a bit of a theme running along these lines recently as Sally Asling (@surreylets) wrote an article about letting go in business and comparing it to the bit in the Titanic where Rose has to let go of Jack to save herself.
When you notice a theme running in your life, things you see or hear – music on the radio, tweets which catch your attention, articles which jump out at you – it’s time to listen up and think about where in your life you would be wise to tune in and actually hear the alarm clock which is trying to wake you up to your own situation.
If you’ve been making things more difficult for yourself by holding onto a ‘Jack’ equivalent, if you feel that giving in or giving up is failure, maybe it’s time to recognise what positive step could actually be made if you did give in or up.
Sometimes you need to say ‘enough is enough’ or ‘I have done all I can here’. Is that failure? Not in my book, it’s actually being willing to make life easier.
Adopt the mantra – easy, easy, easy! Question your decisions, look at your options, which one is easy and which one will you now take?
