I’m wondering if you too are sitting there wondering where to even start being able to define yourself? I heard a question on Twitter the other day which asked what, how and who are you. As I began to imagine my answer, I saw things which were quite a surprise.
Have you ever had the need to define yourself in that way? It’s a surprise also to ask the question for what reason are you as you’ve described? This one might bring up a whole load of reasons for being the person you are and not the person you want to be or thought you were.
The other thing we can pay attention to, if you’re so inclined, is awareness that we can choose at any given time to change our identity. Sometimes that comes as a shock. Sometimes our identity feels like it’s the only thing we can hang onto in a world of constant change. The answer of course boils down to whether you’re happy with what you’ve created. After all, you are the only person who thinks your thoughts, does what you do and feels the way you feel, so the responsibility is yours.
I’ve been going through a period of redefinition … again!! My old website The Divorce Coach disappeared from the web at the beginning of January. I hadn’t noticed as I was otherwise engaged on a very intensive training course in France. When it was drawn to my attention yesterday, I took a step back and wondered whether or not to reinstate the site or whether it was a good time to let it go and allow me to redefine the work I do without a divorce label.
Other labels we often wear are ones like Mum, Dad, mother, daughter, father, son, etc etc and those are in addition to the label for the job we do. Recently I’ve noticed how many people are not able to define what they do so easily as they may well be involved in various business ventures, each requiring different skill sets and abilities.
I wonder too if this is the time to being willing to question more? The Divining Femininity website and workshops are exploring what it is to be female. It’s a different meaning for each of us and even just within the 4 group co-ordinators we are finding very different understandings.
Maybe I’m alone but for me 2010 is about re-defining me, my life and what I’m about. This takes divining – a deeper exploration, an asking and an open-ness to receive insights I don’t know yet, the willingness to step into the dark unknown.