Posts Tagged ‘perseverance’
There’s a saying which goes ‘be careful what you wish for as you may get it’. It’s true! In Hawaii, the shamanic way of life called Huna has one of my favourite phrases, and I’m sure I’ve quoted it here before –
Where your attention goes, energy flows
That’s why when you keep focussing on what you don’t want, you get it. It’s a self fulfilling prophecy. The word ‘not’ is ignored by the unconscious mind. The unconscious mind is the driver behind everything that arrives in your life … not your conscious mind, and not always your actions. Although obviously we need to take action it should be towards what we want as opposed to away from what we don’t. There are learning stages, and we soon get used to it, though can be forgetful at times!
I’m just reminding myself at the moment to be open to receiving what I’m looking for. I started a practice at the beginning of the year with Jamie Ridler’s Full Moon Dreamboards after I heard my good friend Amy Palko wax lyrically about them. I find the creative side of them a bit tricky, but today (which is full moon day) I was directed to Mosaic Maker where I downloaded a wonderful tool which helped me through the process. If I’d had more time, I’m sure I could have played with the pictures a bit, cropping and creating on Picnik to make it even more meaningful, but for my first attempt I’m really pleased.
It’s in the shape of an ‘R’ to denote Receiving. I wanted a reminder to myself to open my arms, my heart and keep my focus on what I want from and in life. The images mean things to me, and may not mean the same to you – that’s why images work so well – they bypass the conscious thought and create and store meaning and feeling which helps create what you are looking for.
Although you can’t see them I know for example that these are also in the collage somewhere hidden by some of the other photos –
Look at the way water just falls with no fear, it just keeps flowing. How that great big bear can give such wonderful warm hugs. How those dancers perform with such grace and dedication. The love from the angel is inspiring me to give more. Two big splashes have got to be better than one! A shoe made of money … reminds me of cobblers’ children and I must look after me and mine first. And lastly, who could deny the sunshine the positive glowing golden effects it gives us, nurturing and nourishing our very existence. Butterflies, remind us how transient it all is and why we must make hay while the sun shines 😉
I’m open to receiving what I’ve asked for and am aiming for with open arms, expecting magic sparkles to be created and jump from my own hands! Nunca Mas is Spanish for never again and that’s a sharp stick which I popped in there just in case!!
How does the word easy rest with you? It’s a strange word with so many connotations, many of which aren’t always positive!
Easy lover … be warned Phil Collins would tell us and don’t fall for an easy lover who will steal your heart and you won’t even feel it. That’s really not a positive outlook is it?
We are so often ingrained that anything that’s easy is bad for us. We must work hard, play hard and love hard. We need to suffer to succeed.
Is that necessarily true? It’s not the working long hours or putting in effort which is the issue, it’s the word hard!! Is your effort making your life easy … if not, for what reason are you doing it? Are you even enjoying it any more? Sometimes we feel we are suffering and yet given the options we would rather choose the life we have than make changes to live it differently – in those cases, stop moaning and recognise your choice.
On Twitter this morning, Davina McKail (@dreamwhisperer) suggests that to give in is to give inwards to yourself. And yesterday she noted that to give up on what isn’t working for you – is not failure, we’re surrendering and handing over to our higher power.
There’s been a bit of a theme running along these lines recently as Sally Asling (@surreylets) wrote an article about letting go in business and comparing it to the bit in the Titanic where Rose has to let go of Jack to save herself.
When you notice a theme running in your life, things you see or hear – music on the radio, tweets which catch your attention, articles which jump out at you – it’s time to listen up and think about where in your life you would be wise to tune in and actually hear the alarm clock which is trying to wake you up to your own situation.
If you’ve been making things more difficult for yourself by holding onto a ‘Jack’ equivalent, if you feel that giving in or giving up is failure, maybe it’s time to recognise what positive step could actually be made if you did give in or up.
Sometimes you need to say ‘enough is enough’ or ‘I have done all I can here’. Is that failure? Not in my book, it’s actually being willing to make life easier.
Adopt the mantra – easy, easy, easy! Question your decisions, look at your options, which one is easy and which one will you now take?
As I lay in bed last night listening to the wind in the trees, the leaves doing a frenzied dance with epic stamina (they’d been at it for a few days), I stopped thinking. I stop thinking regularly, some folk call it meditation. I used to believe that meditation had to have a purpose and that it was difficult to do because I’m not great at relaxing, but the more I’ve stopped thinking, the easier it gets to define what works for me. If it’s meditation, great, if it’s just no thought, great!
I need that time just to let go, to stop things becoming overwhelming. It doesn’t of course mean that the situation changes while I’m not thinking about it, or does it?
Situations are just that, they aren’t the things which create the stress and fear in our lives. It’s our feelings, our thoughts, our emotions which are all tied up in what we understand the situation to be saying to us. The experience we then have is our story around the problem.
While I lie in a place of ‘no thought’, I’m suspended. Time too is suspended. The situation is still going on, but it doesn’t bother me in a place of ‘no thought’.
One day I got to realising after clocking up so many no-thought airmiles, that actually I didn’t need to go there in order to be there. I could just be there all the time.
If I can suspend time and a situation by not thinking about it when I chose to deliberately, then that was also an option while I went about the rest of my daily chores and life. Imagine how wonderful that is!
Now this could get irresponsible because although you can suspend time and problems from your thoughts, there are things which you might have to change to accommodate the issue and that there are things for which you are responsible and you must take action.
You need to know what it is you want to achieve, what outcome you are looking at. You need a focus and a goal – one which you know is determined by you and is not reliant on others. This might even be as simple as ‘I want to feel happy, or at peace’. So the difference lies by taking stock of what you can do, and doing it.
When you know that you’ve taken the steps required by you, and some of them might be massive pieces of action, you have done what you can. The action required isn’t always done in one fell swoop, but starting doing one thing at a time will make a difference.
Continually ruminating and cogitating over what has happened, where you are and how unfair it all is will hold you stuck. The no-thought helps to stop that process and gives you the added oomph to start taking the steps which will pull you through.
Having someone to help you move beyond what appears to be the problem and help you get to no-thought is the first step you might consider.
Obviously I won’t be doing them simultaneously, or will I? My guess is that it’s quite likely … although not physically writing you understand, more like allowing the ideas and content to flow in.
Today my great friend Amy Palko highlighted a new writing project to get involved in. It’s being organised by a lady called Bindu Wiles who seems to have had one of those extraordinary lives, challenging might be an understatement, and she’s found her way through. This project has a twist, and I love twists!
For 21 days, we’ll be doing 5 days of yoga a week and 800 words of writing per day.
This has come at just the right time because at the weekend I didn’t do any exercise. Hence this is Days 3-5 all wrapped up in one blog!! Against my better judgement, God gave me rain, and more rain and yet more rain. My intended bike ride in the Borders was a wash out and so I let go of the notion and decided that the weekend could be rest days, unless it was sunny and I wanted to get out.
It’s a strange thing isn’t it when you commit to something and you start making excuses like – it rained, this is meant to be pleasure, I need a break occasionally. I pondered those and wondered if I was repeating an old pattern. But … what I learned was that I’d let go of the need to wear a hair shirt, to beat myself up for not doing something and I knew that I’d be back to the gym. And as if by magic, here now is a chance to add even more variety to the act of getting fit – and it keeps me attending my blog at the same time …. what a stroke of brilliant luck!
This afternoon, I’ve been back and done my full workout. It was a bit of a techno challenge on some of those machines knowing which handle to pull and where to put it. I worked out that if it felt awkward it was in the wrong place. The only time that wasn’t the case was for the ‘Abductor’ …. I tell you, it’s nearly as evil as it’s name suggests and exercises those bits that Heineken can’t reach on your inner thighs.
For the days when folk are feeling a bit burned out, or in my case, done enough exercise for one day, Bindu kindly includes something called Savasana (the corpse pose)! This is a resting posture done at the end of yoga practice in a prone position on the floor for 20-40 minutes listening to relaxing music. That sounds just perfect for days like today when a bit of peace and stillness is needed instead of more stretching and exercising.
For the writing part of the project, in addition to keeping these blogs going, I’m using this as the perfect opportunity to enter the Guildford Book Festival Short Story Competition which is being sponsored by the lovely Tom Evans, The Bookwright. This short story is just about ready to burst forth into reality and when it’s complete, it’ll be available from our site Ugli Mediation – there are a few twists and turns in it which make Ugli the ideal platform for it given that the work we do involves transforming ugly situations.
The Magician is the card we turn to next. It’s been bothering me that I haven’t written for a couple of weeks and today as I wait for one daughter to wake up and the other to come home from a sleep over, I decided it was time to resume my journey.
Imagine my surprise when delving into various books to get some understanding of The Magician, I suddenly realised the reason for the delay in proceeding! As sure as eggs is eggs, I wasn’t meant to write anything until now …. now that I have even more understanding of what’s happening around me.
The Magician card as you can see illustrated here has each of the minor arcana suites at his disposal, he can create what he will. He is standing in a fruitful picture of gold and flowers – bountiful. This is a time for those who are about to be rewarded for the expertise and effort they have put into specialised training. Never could this be more true for me. For 6 years I have been working to get to where I am, practising, honing my skills, learning new ones and all the time knowing that the day would come when I could trust that the work I do is not by me alone! By that I mean to fully accept that when I am in my flow of working with clients I am merely the conduit through which their change can happen.
It’s like magic! The Magician calls upon all sorts of skills – learning, adaptability, communication, observation, callibration, self confidence and willingness to take action towards an outcome.
As you know from my first writing of The Fool I received some awesome news that day and the opportunity is getting bigger and bigger day by day. This weekend I was told of an even bigger leap for this project which will be announced tomorrow. The guys behind it are true Magicians with a vision and belief which will improve the lives of so many – take a look at Talking2Minds to see what I mean. The charity has been set up to eradicate the symptoms of PTSD for service personnnel and their families.
In addition to that, I’ve been working with Tom Evans, The Bookwright and have now got two books in the pipeline, one is a self help book and the other a spiritual book – both addressing relationships and taken from different starting points.
The Magician is providing me with the ability to teach what I have learned, and encouraging me to learn more – both of which I do gladly. If I stop learning and adding to my skill set, I feel as though I’m drying up, I feel as I’m not feeding an essential part of me. If I don’t teach what I already know then my knowledge and expertise is wasted, it’s almost as if the universe is saying what’s the point in giving you more when you aren’t sharing what you already have. It’s time for me therefore to step up and be more accessible to a wider audience.
Part 1 of my exploration into things Tarot and relationships – relationships in whatever guise they appear as I work through this.
- derision, unpreparedness
- envied, carefree
- devil may care, very present
- flamboyant, individual, light, determined, open, welcoming, trust
Last night as I took my girls back to their father’s, I realised that today (tomorrow then) was going to be a very important day to me. I was going public with a journey.
As I woke up, I heard the rain falling, the copper beech dripped fat droplets, the sky was grey, the air was light, I felt rested.
The only fixture in my diary after so many weeks of holiday was one client at 10am. I was calm, relaxed and looking forward to a day to catch up with emails and admin. I was ready to prepare a workshop I’d mooted back in July.
I’m very used to taking life as it comes, with an ability to whistle as I work and this summer has taught me to take much more time to being than doing. I reckon The Fool, takes a lot of time to being – he looks like he saunters with a bit of a spring in his step, wandering along a path knowing that whatever comes up he can handle it. He travels light, he has the love of his dog, he has a self assured way about him.
Flexibility is enormously important to me, how do you feel about being flexible? How do you feel about wandering with an aim, but not necessarily an outcome in mind?
At 9.54am I had a phone call. This was no ordinary phone call, this was an M&S phone call (UK readers will understand that). I was offered an opportunity which hadn’t even been on my radar, I couldn’t have seen it coming even if I’d tried!
I whistled a bit louder then, and carried on with my day, taking in my stride the news.
As The Fool meets relationships head on, I wonder how often we can meet someone new and keep strong to ourselves while at the same time embracing and encompassing someone else into our lives? There are times when we might have to make some tweaks, some adjustments, but how often do people stop in their tracks when someone or something new comes into their lives?
I believe in my understanding of The Fool that this card represents an individuality which probably means you have to strike out and follow your own truths. I believe that by doing so, you will meet and get opportunities which otherwise wouldn’t be open to you. The Fool is a bit of a leader but doesn’t want to be seen as such – and yes, I can see the similarities!
Today The Fool has represented a culmination of my last 5 years of believing in what I do, persevering along my path and not allowing myself to be drawn back to live a life I don’t enjoy in order to escape what had become the toughest time in my life.
I always think it’s a bit of paradox that we often find ourselves in a situation needing to know things in order to make sense.
The fact is that we only get to know what we don’t know when we become aware that we don’t know it – up till then it hasn’t mattered one iota, therefore why do we get upset about not knowing!
We make decisions everyday based on what we know now, and that’s good enough. There is no rule that you have to stick to that decision when you know more. What this means is that you are constantly changing, you are continually learning and knowing more and you can make new decisions whenever you feel like it based on that new information.
This is today’s Note from the Universe
I don’t recommend asking for what you can have, or even for what you can give, nearly as much as I recommend asking for what else you can know.
Because there is always more you can know, and knowing it will radically increase all you can have and give.
When we begin to trust and accept that there are greater forces than ourselves at play, we begin to surrender to the process of being in the right place, at the right time, meeting the right people, saying the right thing and everything is just as it should be.
With a willingness to open to possibility, suddenly we find all sorts of opportunities around us which we didn’t know were there. In order to notice these possibilities and opportunities we have to be willing to have a quiet mind, be fearless, and to notice what is working and what isn’t.
It requires us to take the blinkers off. It needs us to be curious. And, we need to accept when we need to take a different path.
Very often we need to make a decision in order to know more. The people who take no action, who worry about ‘what if’ cannot hear or see what choices they have because they are so engrossed in their story of lack or fear.
Our life is on earth is about fun and we can make it as easy or hard as we like, every time you don’t know something rejoice in the fact that you are about to turn a corner which will create a new future, if you let it!